Bests & Worsts Reviews from Amazon

Best parenting book I've read. And I've read a lot of them. Over the past few years, I saw my once sweet, caring son turn into a teenaged monster. He's 16 now and I can count on one hand the number of stress free days we've had over the past year. I almost took out a 2nd mortgage on my house in order to afford to send him to a rehab program. Thank god I just spent $18 on a book instead. Now brace yourself for what I'm about to say, because it's not popular and it took me a minute to get on board with, too: more than likely, your kids problems are because of you. Yeah, I know. I've read so many books that talk about how to change your child's behavior. But guess what? I'm sure you've already tried to change them and it doesn't work, or perhaps gets you even more difficult behaviors. This book tells you how to change YOU. Indeed, it is the only way to help your child and ultimately help you. The past two weeks I have seen a remarkable change in my child, and it almost 100% came from me changing my behavior first. Dr. Tsabary explains this concept without passing lots of blame or shame (this is the opposite of a helpful approach, by the way), but helps you reconcile your own past hurts and issues, often from childhood and the way you were parented. So there, blame your parents for your child's behavior. ha. No really, there is no need for blame. Just for acceptance of yourself and your child right here, right now. And a willingness to admit that you are part of the problem, but even more that you can be the solution! Our kids need us to change for them. My favorite quote so far: "In simple, everyday ways, as well as more profound ones, our children are constantly saying to us, "Wake up, look at yourself, transform yourself. Do this for YOU, so that I may be free of what burdens you."" Beautiful. <3