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Works amazingly with a few key factors to consider
First of all: Ferber is not a monster who lets babies cry themselves to sleep. If you give this book a chance you will see that. Since being born and after 12 months of dealing with our baby waking up every 1 to 2 hours and not knowing how to fall back asleep on their own, we tried the techniques in this book and saw results from the very first night to the tune of our baby sleeping for 10 hours straight for the first time since he was born! And the results just kept getting better and the crying almost completely went away. For those on the fence about Ferber, there are however several keys to successfully implementing his techniques. The first and most important is both husband and wife need to be on board for keeping discipline to practice the techniques in the book. If one or the other can't take baby crying as they adjust to new sleeping conditions that do not require help from Mom or Dad, this book won't be of any help and will be the source of heated arguments putting unnecessary pressure on your marriage. The second key is consistency. If you do this for a few weeks and think your baby's sleep troubles are solved, it's likely your baby will regress back to the "easier" conditions that baby formerly preferred to sleep under (i.e. conditions where someone needs to wake up whenever baby wakes up to satisfy whatever condition(s) baby has been trained to think they need to fall back asleep). This will lead to no one in the house being happy. The final key which combines both the above keys is maintaining the same schedule every day to the best of everyone's ability. It's easy to fall out any routine, but if you slip on baby's routine, this will directly affect their ability to sleep. I'm sorry to say while my wife and I maintained discipline for the first 3 weeks on this book and our baby was sleeping through the night for 9 to 10 hours without our help, after 3 weeks my wife who had been struggling with how quickly our baby showed he did not need anyone's help reverted to going in at the sound of any whimper and after 3 or 4 days of this she's back to sleeping on the floor every night with our baby who again is waking up every hour or two and needing her to cuddle him back to sleep. While this is the exact type of sleeping arrangement I thought we were trying to avoid, this is proof to me that while the techniques in this book work, if both Mom & Dad are not on board your baby will revert back to whatever conditions they formerly fell asleep under and you'll have to start all over again. I hope my advice can be of help to others. Good luck!
January 2016 · Books · verified purchase