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This book literally changed my life. I am a woman and always had an attachment style that is sometimes fearful avoidant sometimes dismissive avoidant. Everything the author describes about avoidant people matches perfectly what I am, what I did or do and how I feel. I stumbled across other avoidants in my life and like the author says the relationships between me and other avoidants were always short lived because the "why bother" factor was just too much. This book is priceless both for avoidants like me and for non avoidants. I think almost everyone in their life will happen to date some avoidants, especially if you are still single above 30. This book gives you the tools you need to exactly understand where you stand. It saves you so much pain. For me, it has helped understand why I always feel caged when in a relationship, why I never seem to find the right person despite the fact that I am fit and reasonably attractive. Also it allowed me to understand how poor my communication is and how out of touch with my emotions I am. Many of the men I briefly dated told me I sort of behave like a man. I could never understand exactly why, as I never had manly manners. This book made me realize it is because I often act like I don't give a damn about relationships (and in most cases I don't give a damn for real). The author clarified that avoidants are more often men than women so now I also understand why my dates had that feeling that I behaved like a man. I would seriously give this book 100 stars. So far I can honestly say it has been the most helpful book I have read in my entire life. I read many books about relationships but this went right to the core, the root reason, why my relationships were always disfunctional. As an avoidant, they were bound to be dysfunctional because I made them so. Now with this awareness I think I can learn to be better and hopefully start a secure and mature relationship