Bests & Worsts Reviews from Amazon

Sorry- I CAN'T recommend this book because it is based on the outdated incorrect view that abusers do so because they are "hurt little boys" that are insecure and treat you badly because they are acting defensively..... when in reality (and based on more modern research and understandings about abuse) their actions are all OFFENSIVE tactics based on entitlement rather than defensive mechanisms. Why is this a big deal??? One reason is when an emotionally abused person is told their abuser is a 'hurt little boy' what they hear is that they need to be more understanding and loving... many will stay and endure the abuse to try to help... the mentality that the abuser is a hurt little boy reacting to some slight to their hurt ego reaffirms the victim's confusion about how this is all their fault and keeps them in a dangerous cycle of abuse. I have tried to get through this book looking for any redeeming things and I just can't find enough to overshadow it's faults. I DO recommend "In Sheep's Clothing" by George Simon and "Is it me?" by Natalie Hoffman and "Healing from Hidden Abuse" by Shannon Thomas.