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This book is based on the premise that each of us has an imaginary bucket that can be filled or emptied by the behavior or actions of the people around us. The message is that we should all strive to act in ways that fill another person's bucket, as opposed to emptying his/her bucket. BUT...on the flip side, the book also shows the effects of behavior on people, and I wish it had another message, like "Even if someone does something that would empty your bucket, don't let them empty your bucket!" Shouldn't we teach children how to not get affected by the behavior around them, whether positive or negative? In other words, if we can teach our children to not become dependent on praise or internalize negative behavior, they'll be well-balanced individuals. You can't control what other people do. Everyone would have to read this book and follow the positive behavior recommended by the book. Well, kid, that's not how the world works. How about teaching our children that their happiness is dependent on themselves - doing the "right thing", making socially beneficial choices, taking good care of their mental and physical health, enjoying every little aspect of life, including the downturns, which is part of being alive! - how about that? Luckily, I read the book before reading it to my 4 year old. I think the author has good intentions, but I don't agree with his one-sided approach. I wish there was a book that addressed treating other people kindly, but also not getting affected by another person's actions.