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Disappointing. Not well researched, unoriginal, and toxic attitude toward sex.
I was hoping for something more original or at least something well researched.
For example, the information about the G-spot and Dr. Grafenberg was inaccurate. Though it is true that stimulating the anterior wall without simultaneously stimulating the clitoris may be difficult to do, we do now recognize that Dr. Grafenberg was correct in that the urethra has it's own erectile tissue and nerve endings that are very stimulatory when stimulated with pressure on the anterior vaginal wall. In other words, there IS an orgasm that can originate primarily from the vagina in some women. Not saying that's especially the thing to make a goal but to deny the existence of such is simply inaccurate.
Also, when it comes to female ejaculation, we do know from ultrasound studies that some women do ejaculate significant amounts of volume. It's a real phenomenon that should not be discounted.
Her report about the O-Shot® procedure ignores multiple supportive papers and gives an inaccurate description of the procedure.
More importantly, her whole attitude about what sex can do other than bring pleasure is especially disturbing. A quote from the book: "As long as you're having an orgasm or two, who cares about anything else?" That statement and others in the book seem to discount that some of us actually care about our lover. It seems to me that the reasons for sex are much more than just pleasure--they include creativity, energy, health, clarity of thought, better sleep, and improved relationships. To teach that a woman should only be concerned with her own orgasms seems to be the reverse side of the ugly coin of the man who just wants to get off and then roll over and go to sleep without regard for his lover.
So, other than being unoriginal and poorly researched, the whole attitude and premise of the book seem to miss the most important reasons for sex.
Disappointing and potentially toxic, but the anatomy diagrams could be useful to some.
August 2019 · Books