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better off dead?
So nice to romanticize something you know nothing about, trivializing it by making a love story out of a subject they are completely ignorant. I am a quadriplegic, in a similar condition as the character, Will, in this story; I have been for about 38 years. I wonder why these stories about the severely disabled, and there have been many, always end in the poor disabled person riding off into the sunset of life, dying, usually by their own "hands", leaving the world a better place without them. The message is, sacrifice yourself because you're better of that way, and so is everyone around you. That's a twisted message. It's the common bleak message of despair and ignorance perceived by in this case, those who need a foil for writing a love story with what they think is a unique and different romance. You might respond, "Oh, it's just a romantic love story. Don't take it so seriously.", or, "You're taking it all the wrong way and missing the point." Perhaps, but if every time there was a story penned about a subject person you identify with (pick your favorite male/female/cultural or ethnic character), that story ended with the protagonist concluding the world was better off without them, and in so doing, kill themselves and prove the proposition, you would begin to wonder about the way society views you; and in this story that conclusion is manifest to reality by Will killing himself (and we don't see any of that ugliness) and "Clark" being given or rewarded a large bank account to... a better life now that Will is gone. Gee, what a happy ending. Moral of the story: the world is better without the to-be-pitied disabled person, and life goes on and improves for the non-disabled. Does that principle apply to all the marginalized?
This is not just a story for me, it is real life; it can be tough, but it can also be good and happy, and can be satisfying with work and struggle, same as for anyone else. Trivializing and stereotyping it with "you're better off dead" messages is ignorant, grossly inappropriate and wrong. Sorry, but we can do better that this. There are always options, and with faith and a belief in yourself by you and those around you, and with perseverance and dedication to a goal, those desires are reachable. The pathways are just different and require a shift in perceptions. And remember, no one wins by themselves. There's always help from someone. Moral: it is not romantic to quit because it's hard, but it is romantic to succeed, and in succeeding, the world is a better place.
June 2017 · Movies and TV · verified purchase